Hey my friends, welcome back!
I hope that you were able to spend a little time getting down to the root of your new goals. Knowing yourself really is the foundation of success. Once you have spent the time to learn what your goal is and why, it is time to put a plan into action.
So today we are going to put our passion into action.
So today we are going to put our passion into action. A goal is all good and lovely but if you want to actually have a change in your life, you need to make changes. Simple, I know, but let’s break it down today.
How to crush your goals
1. Make it Known: Put it on paper
There is a lot of power in writing down your feelings. Putting your thoughts down on paper gives you a feeling of clear boundaries. It takes a general hope into a tangible goal. Take the time to write down what your goal is and why you choose it. Share your feelings about your goal. Does it excite you or intimidate you? Why is it important to you?
We will be referencing back to these later, and you will be very happy that you took the 10 minutes to write it all down.
2. Measure Up: How can you track these goals?
It is hard to meet a goal that is too generic. Have you ever thought to yourself, “I am going to start eating better.” or “I am going to watch less tv.” Did you complete that goal? What is the “better” amount? How “less” is enough? It doesn’t make sense does it? The truth is, without a measuring stick, it is hard to know if you are making progress.
Depending on your goal, it might be hard to find a way to measure your goal, but it is necessary.
For an example:
- In the case of being called in to work and missing important events, I decided to try to set myself up in the best way possible by planning vacation for important events and avoiding plans when I guess I might be called in to work. To measure how well I am following my goal I will track or note each time I am called into work when I had an important event. At this point, it is just tracking to get an idea of how many times I had a successful or unsuccessful planned event.
- It is easier to track my success for keeping a clean home. I will print a weekly schedule that fits my needs. Each day I will mark with chores or tasks to have done. I will keep track of how many of these tasks I complete and how many are left undone.
- It is also fairly simple to track my thoughts. For each person, the tracking might be a little different, but I like just a simple visual. I will make a background on my phone that says “These things happen to everyone. I will accept it with grace and not let it dampen my spirit” (my replacement phrase). By just seeing this phrase more often, it will become a part of me. I will also track the number of time each day that I have to stop myself from saying “Of course this would happen to me!”. Each time I think this phrase I will make a tally mark (this can be on a note book or app). By becoming more self aware, I am sure that I will correct my mental phrasing. I will be able to see this by the decreasing tick marks day by day.
- Helping share joy with my hurting loved one is also easily tracked. I will make a weekly check list of the tasks I plan to do to share this joy. At the end of this weekly list I will have a section for reviewing my feelings and the feelings of my loved one. Keeping these and reviewing them at the end of each month will let me see the progress I am making.
3. Rewards: What makes you feel special?
Now everyone deserves a little something special for a job well done. If you have a reward that you are working towards you are much more likely to stay on track. Take a few minutes to figure out what makes you happy.
What do you love? How do you feel loved? What makes you smile? It doesn’t matter how big or little your prize is. What matters is that it is specific to you. Pick a goal that makes your heart smile and your spirit excited.
Do you feel loved when you get to laugh with friends? Dinner out with friends
Do you feel happy when you get a special item just for you? A new coffee mug or accessory
Does a beautiful smell in the house make you happy? A new essential oil you haven’t tried yet (believe me, you want this!)
Do you like to try new experiences? Buy a Groupon for a pottery class or rock climbing
Is your love language touch? Get a massage or pedicure scheduled
Do you feel special when someone says something good about you? Make a plan with a friend that when you reach your goal, they will make a big deal out of it. Let them post it on Facebook or make you a fun certificate and deliver it to you at work. It may sound silly, but everyone loves to be recognized.
4. Scream it from the Mountains: Find a mantra
Having a motto can help you stick with it when the going gets tough. Some goals (like changing my thought patters) might come with a motto built right in. For the rest of the goals, it is important to find something that you can cling to when you feel like you are slipping. This is similar to a reward, but instead of it being something that you WILL get, it should be something you ALREADY HAVE or aim to possess.
If you can’t find a mantra for yourself just remember: With all my soul, I want you to know that you are important. If you need encouragement, message me any time!
For an example:
- I can do anything, but not everything.
- I have a family who loves me, all else is extra.
- I am safe. I will progress and it will not cause me harm.
- Be still and know.
- I have a 100% success rate at making it through hard days.
- I will not allow my circumstances to dictate my kindness.
- Earth below me. Sky above me. Fire within me. (My Fave!)
- I am smart and a good problem solver. I will find a way.
- I will start again tomorrow.
- Today will be what it will be. I will be who I am.
- Inhale confidence, exhale doubt.
- I can only do what I can do.
The important part is to find a phrase that can remind you that you can (and will) crush this goal. You are important and strong and worthy of a better life. I believe this with all my heart.
Comment below with your rewards!
(We could all use some ideas.)
Thank you guys for spending some time with me today. You will go on to do great things! Once you have a plan in place for how to crush your goals, you are well on your way. There is just one little thing left: What happens when you fall short? Join me on the blog next time to learn what to do in case you have trouble along the way.