Did this week seem to drag slowly by? Were there so many things to do that you felt like you were in a swirling tornado (at least with the house flying off there was less cleaning to do)?
Be overwhelmed no longer. Today is #SelfCareSunday and I am going to be sharing little tips and tricks on ways to keep yourself and your soul in tip top shape.
Today I want to talk a little bit about positive thinking. Don’t worry we’re not going to change our whole mindset in 10 minutes this morning. We’re going to start small; small changes lead to big changes. Let’s start with changing our lives, 10 seconds at at time.
I want you to create a Mantra or a theme that helps define how you want your life to look. Take a few moments to really look into how your life is going right now. Is there anything you would like to change? Are you too busy? Too tired? Too angry?
If the idea of a “Mantra” seems a little too “weird” or “new age-y” for you then think of it as more of a marketing slogan. You are presenting yourself to each person you walk by, to each person you talk to. How do you want them to see you?
A mantra should be personal and connect with you. There is no since in picking a slogan like “I can hit a home run. I will hit a home run.” if you don’t even play baseball. Pick something that strikes a cord with you. It can also be a famous quote or song lyric. There are really no rules. This is a do-what-is-best-for-you kind of scenario.
Like I said, no rules, but most people find that short phrases work best. Also, most Mantras are in a present tense form. Imagine as if your life is already looking the way you want it to look.
Your saying won’t be same forever, either. It will grow and change just like you do.
Here are a few examples to get your brain going:
- Yesterday is not today.
- This is one moment, not a lifetime.
- I am strong. Body and mind.
- I choose how to react.
- I will not compare. My journey is my own.
- I am thankful for all that I have, even if it is not perfect.
- I am better than I was yesterday.
- I keep peace with me.
- I release what I cannot control.
- I will breathe deeply and keep my heart open.
- Sky above me. Earth below me. Fire within me.
- The start is what stops most people.
- I am here to learn.
- I have a purpose and a story to share.
- There is room for us all to win.
There are a couple of these that I have used over the years but the one mantra I always seem to come back to is this: I can only do what I can do.
In the beginning it kind of felt like a cop-out or an excuse. It took me some time to come to peace with it’s truth. During my sick years, I had to learn that I couldn’t do it all. My body was telling me that. After an emotional and physical battle I realized that it was actually a profound reassurance and not an excuse at all.
I can only get done as much as I can get done. After all, how much wood can a woodchuck chuck?
This phrase has carried me through for almost a decade now- once I finally accepted it. It was such a great comfort to remind myself that there is only so much I am physically capable of doing and it’s okay to have a limit. Please understand, I will always do my best. I am always going to try to do the work put in front of me. But if I just can’t build that house by myself, then I can’t do it. AND THAT’S OKAY.
I try to remind my husband of this when he’s lying in bed and can’t sleep because of some stress that is overwhelming his mind. Is that you? Do you lay awake at night overcome with stress or frustration? Try to ask yourself:
- (I can only do what I can do.) Can I do anything about this now, at 3 a.m.?
- Can I fix this problem by pondering it?
- Should I get up and go work on this project? (If the answer is yes, and you’re making some good progress then go do it but if you are just rehashing old problems, then just go to sleep.)
- Will I work best on this project after a good night sleep or a night thinking about it?
- If I write this down will it free me up from “having to remember it”?
I understand, it’s easy to say and hard to do.
It’s easy to tell your brain to shut off but hard to actually male it happen. If you can internalize and completely embrace the fact that you can truly only do as much as you can do then it becomes simple. When you are lying there and look over at the clock at 1:28 in the morning you can tell yourself, “I am going to perform best when I am well rested. I can tackle this problem tomorrow when I am at the top of my game. Tonight I cannot do anything. Tonight I will rest.”
I also diffuse some Serenity these days and it is a dream (pun intended). I am going to try their Restful Complex Softgels next month, so I will let you know how that goes. Balance also goes a long way for helping to ease anxiety.*
You can do what you can do best when you realize that you can’t do it all.
*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease